"I Don't Mind Paying For Dates, But No Sex Until Marriage."

 

Stella came from a very staunch Catholic family. Her parents were very strict with her since young, especially during her teenage days. They forbade her to get into any relationship, but instead, made her focus on her studies. Only until her working days then they encouraged her to go on dates. Stella is working as a highly paid executive, but she is not doing well in the area of romance.

Stella told me she went for countless social gatherings, singles' nights as well as dates planned by her friends to introduce guys to her, but nothing seemed to be work. She told me that men only seemed interested in going to bed with her. She was willing to pay for dinner, movies and everything, but no sex. She's wondering if that was the reason for her staying single for so long...

Let's look at her birth chart. Stella was born on 7th December 1981, between 1300-1459. Her pillars are as follows:

Year Pillar: Metal Rooster (Metal)
Month Pillar: Metal Rat (Water)
Day Pillar: Earth Sheep (Earth)
Hour Pillar: Metal Sheep (Earth)

Looking at Stella's chart, she was born on an Earth day in Winter. Her personal element, Earth is surrounded by Metal and Water, which makes her personal element, Earth very weak. In order for us to determine how her romance luck is like, there are 3 things we need to look at. Firstly, the presence of her Husband element and how strong is her Husband element in her chart. In Stella's case, her Husband element is Wood.

Next, we need to see whether there are any clashes in her House of Spouse, which is Sheep (Day Pillar). Lastly, we need to determine whether the element which destroys her Husband element is present, as well as how strong it is.

In Stella's case, her Husband element, Wood is hidden in the two Sheep (Day Pillar and Hour Pillar). The hidden Wood in the Sheep at the Day pillar is strengthened by the presence of Water (Rat) beside it. Next, there are no clashes with her House of Spouse.

Up till this point, everything seems to be going well. But...

The presence of the four Metal elements destroyed everything. There are two Metal elements from her Year Pillar, one from her Month Pillar and the last one from her Hour Pillar. The strong influence of Metal destroys the two hidden Wood elements. But you might ask, what if she encounters a Yang Wood year or Yin Wood year? Will that improve things for her?

Unfortunately not. Yang Wood combines with Yin Earth (Day Pillar) to form Earth, while Yin Wood combines with Yang Metal to form Metal. In this situation, there is nowhere for Wood, her Husband element to thrive. From here, we can conclude that she is really unlucky in the area of romance.

But you might ask, can't the Water (Rat) from her Month Pillar help to act as a middleman between the strong Metal and Hidden Wood? The answer is both yes and no. The Water (Rat) can only act as a middleman for the Metal element from Rooster (Year Pillar) but not for the other three Metal elements (Year Pillar, Month Pillar and Hour Pillar). The strength of the other three Metal elements is enough to destroy the two hidden Wood elements.

If the birth chart fails, let's look at Stella's luck pillars. Hopefully we can find something which can help her along.

2001-2010 Water Tiger (Wood) Pillar
2011-2020 Water Rabbit (Wood) Pillar
2021-2030 Wood Dragon (Earth) Pillar

Looking at the Water Tiger Pillar, Water strengthens Wood (Tiger), which is her Husband element. This time, the Water element can act as a middleman to weaken those three Metal elements in her chart. 2001-2010 looks promising to Stella in the area of romance. Are we able to tell which year does Stella stand the highest chance of meeting Mr Right?

Yes, 2004. 2004 is the Wood Monkey year. Monkey combines with Rat (Month Pillar) to form Water, which in turn strengthens Wood. But unfortunately, the Wood is Yang Wood, which combines with Yin Earth to form Earth. As a result, there is no Wood left. Stella's relationship in 2004 was just like the passing clouds, easy come, easy go.

How about 2005, Wood Rooster year? The Wood of 2005 is Yin Wood, Yin Wood combines with Yang Metal (Month Pillar) to form Metal. As a result, Wood is non-existent again. This means the relationship comes and goes like the previous year.

Now, let's look at the year where Wood is the strongest in her chart, which is 2007. 2007 is Fire Pig year, the Yin Fire combines with Yang Water (luck pillar) to form Wood, plus Pig and Sheep combines to form Wood. 2007 is the best year for romance for Stella. But sad to say, although Wood is strong, the two Water elements which acted as middlemen are no longer present, as they have combined to form Wood.

As a result, the Wood element is now open to attack by the four Metal elements in the chart. Everything goes back to square one.

In actual fact, 2007 was indeed the most romantic year for Stella. She did meet Mr Right and fell in love with him. They went out on dates, Stella was willing to pay for everything, except going to bed with Mr Right before marriage. During that same year, Mr Right got married, but not to Stella. Why not?

From the elements in her birth chart, we can deduce that the four Metal elements made her stand firmly by her principles. That may have made her a disciplined person, but the four Metal elements were also responsible for repelling Mr Right from her.

Since it is a war between Metal and Wood, Stella can increase the effect of the Water element in her daily life to stop the four Metal elements from destroying the two hidden Wood elements in her chart. Eating more sashimi and bean curd will help her in increasing the effect of Water element. Stella should wear more Black and Blue, as well as clothes with wavy patterns. Going for dates in the North area will also help her improve her romance luck.

I wish Stella all the best in looking for her Mr Right.